When faced with negative feedback our common reaction is to immediately defend ourselves with our own rationale. But what if we took a moment to really dig into that feedback, understand what it’s telling us, and use it as a catalyst for improvement?
Negative feedback is usually a result of disappointment.
Negative feedback typically comes when we’ve fallen short of expectations. But let’s not forget that testing things, making mistakes and learning along the way is a crucial part of solving problems.
Remember Wayne Gretzky’s wise words: “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” Let’s embrace the feedback and see where it can take us.
The nature and source of negative feedback needs to be understood and resolved.
Instead of shooting the messenger, let’s focus on what the feedback is saying. Take economists predicting gloom and doom, for instance. They underestimated factors like consumer behavior, post-pandemic recovery, and the increased participation of women in the workforce. Preschool, for example, is a game-changer for working mothers.
The basis of negative feedback needs to be understood.
Understanding the root of negative feedback is key. The pandemic has thrown data into chaos, with more volatility than we’re used to. We need to scrutinize the sources, consistency, demographics, and how we measure it all. Factors like climate change, politics, demographics, and uncertainty affect our data parameters. Does anyone really think Taylor Swift’s attendance at games is boosting the Kansas City Chief’s scores?
How much do bias and opinion affect negative feedback?
Bias and opinion play a big role in how we perceive negative feedback. Entrepreneurs often have unwavering faith in their ventures despite the harsh reality that 90% of startups fail within five years. Sports fans are no different, believing their team can win even when odds are stacked against them. Go Bears!
Bias creeps in when we ignore relevant information, especially when it comes to social and environmental issues. But the simplest things, like saying “please” and “thank you” and asking people “how are you?” can go a long way in building relationships. And bias is highly influenced by circumstances – getting pulled over by a cop feels very different from seeing one protect a place of worship.
Focus on facts rather than opinions or the general nature of the source.
We need to shift our focus from opinions and the source’s general nature to facts. Negative feedback can be valuable and constructive, regardless of how it’s delivered. We must address issues like crime, prejudice, climate change, hatred and safety collaboratively and without political bias. We need to take context into account. For example, when it comes to parenting, supporting toddlers learning to walk is a far cry from teaching teens to drive.
Recognize the existence of the individual agenda.
Let’s take the work-from-home debate. Arguments for and againstoften boils down to personal situations and opinions rather than hard facts. For people with long commutes and individually focused jobs, productivity and satisfaction can be improved by working from home. In contrast, jobs that require significant interaction and collaboration benefit more from working together in an office environment. However, the real question should be about productivity and what it means in each context, a question that often seems to be missing from the conversation.
We need to focus on the positive and not just the negatives.
Let’s also celebrate the positives, not just dwell on the negatives. Drunk driving, heart attacks, women’s rights, civil rights, safety, and smoking have all seen significant improvements in recent years. More women are becoming CEOs (currently 15% at public companies), and road fatalities have declined drastically. We should channel our energy into breaking down barriers and seizing opportunities to do more to support these and similar efforts than focus energy on the negatives.
Focus on solutions and not excuses.
Fear, uncertainty, unrealistic goals, and a reluctance to accept mistakes can all lead to excuses. In contrast, embracing risk, maintaining confidence, learning from errors, accepting the unknown, and setting clear, achievable goals can vastly improve performance.
Understand, monitor and react to negative feedback.
Lastly, we need to understand, monitor, and react to negative feedback. It’s too easy to ignore, forget, or downplay the negatives in areas like health, performance, climate, and safety. We need to acknowledge these issues and continue to support positive practices. For example, staying home when sick is becoming a more accepted practice than spreading illness at work or at school.
In Anne Duke’s book Quit, she discusses how terms like grit, persistence, confidence are common management recommendations. She says, “Grit can get you to stick to hard things that are no longer worthwhile. The trick is figuring out the difference.”
However, terms like quit, fail, lose, etc. all have negative connotations. For example, when I was a new consultant at SCORE, I expressed my disappointment at the large number of people we were unable to help. The response was, “One of the best things we do at SCORE is to help people keep their day jobs”, as if the mere desire to quit a day job to strike out on one’s own was something to squash.
Measurement is also a critical tool for evaluating success, failure and potential. For example, I’m type 2 diabetic and have blood tests done every three months to adjust my behavior and medications. Managing diabetes involves constant monitoring and modifications of diet, exercise and medication. Recently I had added a drug with weight loss potential and have lost over 15 pounds in four months. The next goal is to test how that affects other factors involved.
In the end, it’s about finding solutions to negative feedback and the data that’s been excavated from it. Constructive criticism offers an opportunity for improvement. On the flipside, when feedback is irrelevant, it’s okay to let it go. What long experience has taught me is that getting defensive or ignoring feedback won’t improve anything. Instead, let’s use it to inspire understanding, explore alternatives, and craft better solutions.
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If you are an entrepreneur, someone looking to start their own company, or someone who just wants to be the boss, you are positioning yourself to be a leader, and there is no greater nor more vital role than that. Handling capital, handling personnel, or presenting a product or service to consumers demands the right temperament, the right balance, and the right mindset. It is an awesome responsibility to be a leader, one that can never be taken for granted. But leadership is not measured merely in profits, it is measured in the environment you provide to your employees or co-workers. You need to lead yourself to success by being the best leader you can. It does not mean you have to be Mr. Dithers from the comic strip Blondie, reduced to kicking people in the rear end because they are not performing the way you think they should.That can get laughs in the printed form, but it does not work in the real world.
So what are some of the qualities that constitute an effective leader? Well, here are some we feel are important:
Set the example. Even if a new hire is given a step-by step explanation as to how to function at their job, they will still look to see how it is done by someone who is already there. If, as the leader, you do the right thing, and follow the same procedures you lay down for your constituents, they will naturally follow. Combine that with the energy and commitment needed for the job, and it helps enhance any instructions given to a subordinate. You will not need a flashing sign indicating the way to do it; it will be absorbed from the atmosphere itself.
Mistakes do not have to be fatal. Remember all the mistakes and all the faults you had when you were starting your career. Even if you managed to correct such mistakes and codify how to prevent them from being repeated, no one is ever perfect. While the goal is to get the chance of risk as close to zero percent as possible, it can never be zero percent on its own. Let your employees know that mistakes can happen, and be sure that when they are correct, the knowledge is given to make sure they know what to do next time, and that they can move that knowledge down the line in the future.
Keep the lines of communication open. You never want an employee to think that a question is stupid, and that they should be afraid to ask it. This is part of problem solving. If there appear to be too many questions, there may be a larger problem with training and access to information that needs to be addressed as soon as possible.
Offer encouragement and reassurance. It is impossible to get anywhere in the business world without the power in positivity: in yourself, in the profession you have chosen, in the belief that your efforts will be a success. That positivity must be reflected not only in your activities, but in the activity of your co-workers and employees. Negativity creates paranoia and lethargy; positivity creates success.
You’re in this to be a winner. Nothing demonstrates this better than believing you’re a winner, projecting that you’re a winner, and using that as an attraction to make everyone around you a winner. Our services can help get you going towards that winning standard. Be the best leader you can.
Lawrence Miles is a writer living in White Plains, NY. His collection of essays can be found at https://lawrencemiles.substack.com, and it continues to grow. He is also a published poet, whose works have appeared in journals such as Maintenant #15, 2022 New.
Having loyalty for a brand is one of most important features a business can have. It is passed down from one generation to the next. There is one particular business that has enjoyed such brand loyalty, even when performance has lagged: professional sports.
Professional sports leagues have been in the United States for over 150 years, and many teams can trace their lineage over the past two centuries. It began at a time when they were literally the only game in town: if you wanted to see a baseball game, you went to the stadium or the team closest to you; going to another city was almost impossible. That environment itself created brand loyalty in itself: the “old town team”. Thus, team loyalty could be passed from one generation to the next.
Now, we live in a world where we have access to essentially every team in every sport, so competition is greater than before. Every team’s game can be viewed for almost everywhere in the world. Many teams offer travel packages to see a game in their location live, since travel is easier. Putting up a sign at the local ballpark saying “Game Today” is not enough.
Here of examples of success in the sports world and how they can translate to the business world:
DEVELOPING A SUCCESSFUL BRAND CAN HELP YOU IF GOALS ARE NOT ALWAYS ATTAINABLE. The Dallas Cowboys have not won a Super Bowl in over thirty years, but have built a brand that is among the most well-known, and profitable, business in the world. It was begun by Tex Schramm, the Cowboys general manager, who put the team on high profile days such as Thanksgiving, added cheerleaders that became an attraction all their own, and made Dallas a recognizable destination for exciting football. These traditions have been carried on and expanded by the current owner of the Cowboys, Jerry Jones.
SOMETIMES CONSISTENT SUCESS IS NOT ENOUGH. The New York Yankees recorded their thirtieth consecutive season with a winning record, the longest current streak in American sports. Ask a Yankee fan how this past season went, and they will say it is a failure because they did not make the playoffs. A team like the Yankees, who lead their promotions by bragging about their past successes, can create such high expectations that consistent performance is meaningless. Many times, when a team achieves the ultimate success, an occasional failure is more tolerated. You have to be aware that the demands of your clientele may differ from similar businesses.
SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO TEAR DOWN TO REBUILD. You have to be afraid not to fail in order to succeed, because lessons can be learned from defeat. Many a franchise have allowed themselves to be disassembled and rebuilt from scratch, with the belief that brand recognition and loyalty will carry them through hard times, as long as there is a promise of better days ahead. This is known as a “rebuild”.
MAKE SURE YOUR WORK ENVIRONMENT IS APPEALING TO ENTICE A CASUAL FAN.
Having outstanding facilities can be a draw. The Dallas Cowboys created vastly modern stadiums twice in order to make their product more appealing: Texas Stadium in 1971, and Cowboys Stadium in 2009. The Baltimore Orioles opened Oriole Park at Camden Yards in 1992, known as a “retro stadium”, and almost every other team would follow suit with new stadiums over the next twenty-five years. These buildings create repeat customers by delivering enjoyable visits regardless of the final score.
Combining a good product, through research and development, with providing an enticing environment can result in a successful product, that may just lead to a championship. Reach out to use to help give you that championship edge.
Lawrence Miles is a writer living in White Plains, NY.His collection of essays can be found at https://lawrencemiles.substack.com, and it continues to grow.He is also a published poet, whose works have appeared in journals such as Maintenant #15, 2022 New
As a business consultant, I constantly hear stories, read advice, and see comments focused on worries, concerns, and caution. While thinking through strategies and carefully planning your approach are important, the fuel that brings an idea to life are passion and positivity.
Skill, experience, training, analytics, and all the other technical aspects of running a business are important, yes. But, without the passion and positivity, will you have the drive to push through when problems arise? Will you have the perseverance to keep going when it feels hard? The desire and persistence to succeed come from something you have to find within yourself.
When the “going gets tough,” it can sometimes feel overwhelming. That’s when you need to tap into your “why”—your reason for running this business in the first place. What do you love about it? Why is it important for this pursuit to be successful? What is your driver? Maybe your product or service helps people and it feels good to know that you’re making a difference. Or maybe your company brings people together and that is fulfilling for you. Whatever it is, that is the fuel you need to succeed.
If you need a little boost finding your passion and positivity (some days are harder than others), here are some reminders to keep you on track:
Stop focusing on the negative. Positive thinking is vital. To really have a good chance at success, one needs a balance between reality, paranoia, action, and positive thinking.
Positive thinking does not necessarily mean avoiding or ignoring negatives. Instead, it involves making the most of the potentially bad situations, trying to see the best in other people, and viewing yourself and your abilities in a positive light.
Create a positive culture. Say please, thank you, and demonstrate you care about people. Show support with praise and encouragement.
Remember that operating a small business is a process. Recognize you will make mistakes. Your goal must be to develop, test, measure, and adapt rather than give up after the first or second problem. Because there will be problems. Regularly. Therefore, businesses not only need to have alternatives at the ready, but the processes to adapt must be in place as well.
Stay grounded. Encourage open communication, a sense of realism, and focus on problem solving. Be sure to constantly assess your situation. Develop expert support and, when appropriate, have discussions with outside and inside colleagues. There are always ways to improve. So, be open to new ideas and suggestions.
Be flexible. Because the market changes, and your customers’ lifestyles change by the nano-second, you need to be able to pivot. By “expecting” that your market can change from year to year, you are being proactive in your thinking, and can create flexible plans to adapt to these changes.
Put yourself in others’ shoes. There is extensive research supporting the idea that people don’t change unless they believe in it. So, when given the opportunity to argue your case, try to emphasize the benefits for the other party. It is well proven that tactics like collaboration, trust, and listening work better in decision-making than dictating, lecturing, and proclaiming false expertise. Think of things from their perspective.
Understand your goals, resources, and risk. In particular, really understand your market analysis, competition, how and why your company is different, and why customers should care. Are you focused on long-term growth or quick profits? While testing alternatives is a great strategy, ensure that you are focused on priorities that you can execute and that will have the most potential.
Have fun. Finding ways to incorporate fun helps you tap into your passion and positivity. It can also reduce stress, boost morale, and fosters positivity.
Passion and positivity are great drivers of success. When you enjoy doing something, the effort you put into it feels more fulfilling. And while you may not be passionate about doing inventory, knowing it benefits the overall business may make the less-fun tasks more bearable. It’s all about mindset. So, set your worries aside, keep your passion and positivity at the forefront, continue working hard, and trust that you’re headed for greatness.
Dr. Bert Shlensky, president of Startup Connection, prides himself on his ability to define what is unique about each and every business. He works closely with individuals to develop a personalized approach that targets specific areas of concern and offers solutions based on his 40+ years of experience. His team of experts will address your particular needs while working to save you time and money.
Positive expectations lead to positive results. This is because confidence and energy increase when we believe in ourselves. Conversely, a negative outlook contributes to a lower chance of succeeding. Basically, with positivity, we are capable of whatever we believe we are capable of.
It makes sense, therefore, to create more opportunities to include positivity. This can manifest in many forms: attitude, environment, expectations, etc.
In recent years, it has become more difficult to maintain positive expectations as stress and uncertainty have skyrocketed as a result of the pandemic. Not surprisingly, there has been an increase in depression, suicide, drinking, and crime.
On one hand, we put up with and even enable negativity and bad behavior. For example, in recent weeks, a coached punched another coach, an actor hit another actor, and we allowed senators to act disgracefully while utterly disrespecting a Supreme Court nominee. While all of these occurrences should be intolerable, most of the reactions were minimal or people used it as material for humor. Bad behavior should not be tolerated the way it is.
Fortunately, to offset this, there have also been some recent examples that highlight how positive efforts can improve situations. One of the most incredible reactions to the challenges with Russia is the response of Poland and Ukraine. They have literally helped millions of refuges find food, shelter, clothing, and new lives in less than a month. Their efforts are proving we can be kind, caring, and positive in an environment that is sometimes completely chaotic.
So, how do we forge ahead with a positive outlook that encourages and fosters good behavior and successful results?
Be supportive. Watching parents and little kids is one of the best examples of executing positive expectations. Kids learning to talk, walk, or ride a bike are full of excitement and confidence. At the same time, parents are supportive, encouraging, and watching with glee. If we could support one another, both in and out of work, with this same enthusiasm, how much more successful could we all be?
Consider your perspective. A great (and often unused) tool for developing more positive solutions is to recognize parameters. The recent volatility in the stock market has been well documented. What is not clear is how to analyze and interpret it. For example, two publications reported results with different interpretations and perceptions. One reported that the S&P 500 increased 3.6% in March. The other reported that the S&P 500 declined 4.9 % in the quarter. Both are true, but the interpretation is different.
Weigh all the options. For example, going back to the office creates numerous positive opportunities while working from home has numerous cost, privacy, and lifestyle benefits. In particular, new technologies have made communication, sharing files, and interaction even better. However, being in the office encourages better culture and communication benefits. We must better understand situations, needs, and performance to develop the best solutions. Many decisions are based on tradition and opinions, but maximizing the alternatives can have great benefits. Which option produces the most positive results?
Get out of your comfort zone. Take risks, shake things up, and avoid getting stuck in a rut. This is how we continue to challenge ourselves and foster growth. Risk needs to managed rather than feared. Understanding the risk, the rewards, and the importance of each can help you improve outcomes. Don’t allow fear, uncertainty, or tradition to lower your potential and prevent you from trying something new. The positive: no matter the results, you have gained valuable tools that will help you to continue improving.
Take advantage of opportunities. We’ve had a lot of disruption lately and that can often feel like a challenge rather than an opportunity. But, in my own experience with corporate turnarounds, it’s much easier to motivate, innovate, and develop collaboration in troubled or changing organizations than within those whose culture is based on the closed-minded rule of “we’ve always done it this way.” It’s amazing how many individuals and organizations have incorporated new efforts like E-commerce, work-from-home, Zoom, etc. in order to adapt to the times and, consequently, have actually improved their results.
All of this isn’t to say that every situation should be met with a naive sense of positivity. There are, of course, situations that are very nuanced and require more than a “just look on the bright side” response. Negative emotions should be addressed and we should always try to respond to distress with empathy rather than false reassurances.
In the end, however, looking for the positive rather than focusing on the negative usually gets us further in the long run. I think we can all agree that we’re happier when there are good things happening. So, let’s not only look for the positive, but help put more positivity out there through our work, thoughts, words, and actions.
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Dr. Bert Shlensky, president of Startup Connection, prides himself on his ability to define what is unique about each and every business. He works closely with individuals to develop a personalized approach that targets specific areas of concern and offers solutions based on his 40+ years of experience. His expert team will address your particular needs while working to save you time and money.
When I started this article a few weeks ago, I thought things were getting less stressful with COVID starting to reduce and the economy booming. Since then, the Ukraine situation has escalated, inflation has increased, and stress seems to be rising again. All of this is a reminder that continual change seems more permanent, and we don’t necessarily know what it is or what it will be. Our strategy should focus on being flexible and preparing for whatever might happen.
For example, my and others stock portfolios dramatically increased between 2019 and 2021 by investing in high profile tech stocks like Amazon. In 2022, those and many other tech stocks are dramatically down. Thus, I am learning to diversify.
Similarly, things like COVID, mask mandates, going to back to work, entertainment, and restaurant businesses are experiencing continued uncertainty rather than a straight return to normality. In contrast, kids seem to be going back to school normally.
The most significant aspect of all of this continual change is increased stress and depression. While many of us experience the roller coaster effects of uncertainty every day, an increase in mental illness, drinking, suicides, and crime point to more long-term and serious implications.
So, what do we do? I recommend understanding some certainties, watching change, and developing more flexible strategies.
Some certainties:
There are new structural trends that are becoming embedded in our culture. While myself and others often discuss them, they need to be given more consideration in our strategies and programs. These include:
Income inequality continues to increase.
Technology continues to boom.
Bureaucracies continue to be less effective.
Some changes to watch:
The economy keeps growing.
Labor will continue to be tight.
These changes are producing inflation, which has not been significant for over a decade.
Ways to implement flexibility:
Review and measure your programs on a more regular basis. In particular, evaluate the potential of alternative strategies, such as Internet versus retail.
Allocate some of your time and financial resources to developing and evaluating new programs.
Understand and implement programs to better manage changes like work from home, revived entertainment and networking, school, and diversity.
While change and its uncertainty are increasing, we need to give even more attention to proven best practices. These include:
Utilize technology. It’s not going away. And, it can streamline many of your processes.
Diversify everything: portfolios, employees, your skill-set, etc. We can’t continue living in our own little bubbles. Diversifying also exposes you to more opportunities for return.
Be prepared to adapt quickly. Change is a constant and it’s happening rapidly these days. Don’t get left behind because you’re unprepared, or even worse, unwilling to change.
Prioritize the 80-20 rule. It has been proven time and again that 80% of business revenues are generated by just 20% of our customers. Yet, we all continue to waste time, money, and inventory dollars on customers that bring in a lower return. This tendency frequently adds unnecessary confusion and complexity.
Focus on service, image, andculture. These are frequently the biggest (and often least expensive) ways for small companies to develop a brand and differentiate themselves. Something to consider: In the current social climate, people are more inclined to connect with a brand or buy from a company that is aligned with a good cause and/or participates in charitable giving.
Consider structural changes. Open systems in particular have a number of benefits including more effective problem solving, leadership, communication, and planning. It might be time to reevaluate how your company functions on a structural level and whether or not it’s producing the results you want.
It always seems that as soon as we think things are “settling down” and we’re falling into a groove, that’s when we’re thrown a curve ball. This is because we’re utilizing a mindset that craves the comfort of consistency and reliability. We need to shift our mindset to one that expects change because, while none of us can predict the future, we can, with certainty, rely on change. This might make you feel uneasy, but know that we are all in the same boat. Try to remember that staying flexible will make adapting easier. And, implementing sound, proven strategies will not only set you up for success, but put you in a position to effectively and efficiently change with change.
Dr. Bert Shlensky, President of www.startupconnection.net, offers experience, skills, and a team devoted to developing and executing winning strategies. We guide your plans for business success and unlock your profits.Our strategy includes clear steps, and over 150 free articles and templates to facilitate your efforts and guide your process. We’re here to help you get on track and stay there as you move forward.
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