When faced with negative feedback our common reaction is to immediately defend ourselves with our own rationale. But what if we took a moment to really dig into that feedback, understand what it’s telling us, and use it as a catalyst for improvement?
Negative feedback is usually a result of disappointment.
Negative feedback typically comes when we’ve fallen short of expectations. But let’s not forget that testing things, making mistakes and learning along the way is a crucial part of solving problems.
Remember Wayne Gretzky’s wise words: “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” Let’s embrace the feedback and see where it can take us.
The nature and source of negative feedback needs to be understood and resolved.
Instead of shooting the messenger, let’s focus on what the feedback is saying. Take economists predicting gloom and doom, for instance. They underestimated factors like consumer behavior, post-pandemic recovery, and the increased participation of women in the workforce. Preschool, for example, is a game-changer for working mothers.
The basis of negative feedback needs to be understood.
Understanding the root of negative feedback is key. The pandemic has thrown data into chaos, with more volatility than we’re used to. We need to scrutinize the sources, consistency, demographics, and how we measure it all. Factors like climate change, politics, demographics, and uncertainty affect our data parameters. Does anyone really think Taylor Swift’s attendance at games is boosting the Kansas City Chief’s scores?
How much do bias and opinion affect negative feedback?
Bias and opinion play a big role in how we perceive negative feedback. Entrepreneurs often have unwavering faith in their ventures despite the harsh reality that 90% of startups fail within five years. Sports fans are no different, believing their team can win even when odds are stacked against them. Go Bears!
Bias creeps in when we ignore relevant information, especially when it comes to social and environmental issues. But the simplest things, like saying “please” and “thank you” and asking people “how are you?” can go a long way in building relationships. And bias is highly influenced by circumstances – getting pulled over by a cop feels very different from seeing one protect a place of worship.
Focus on facts rather than opinions or the general nature of the source.
We need to shift our focus from opinions and the source’s general nature to facts. Negative feedback can be valuable and constructive, regardless of how it’s delivered. We must address issues like crime, prejudice, climate change, hatred and safety collaboratively and without political bias. We need to take context into account. For example, when it comes to parenting, supporting toddlers learning to walk is a far cry from teaching teens to drive.
Recognize the existence of the individual agenda.
Let’s take the work-from-home debate. Arguments for and againstoften boils down to personal situations and opinions rather than hard facts. For people with long commutes and individually focused jobs, productivity and satisfaction can be improved by working from home. In contrast, jobs that require significant interaction and collaboration benefit more from working together in an office environment. However, the real question should be about productivity and what it means in each context, a question that often seems to be missing from the conversation.
We need to focus on the positive and not just the negatives.
Let’s also celebrate the positives, not just dwell on the negatives. Drunk driving, heart attacks, women’s rights, civil rights, safety, and smoking have all seen significant improvements in recent years. More women are becoming CEOs (currently 15% at public companies), and road fatalities have declined drastically. We should channel our energy into breaking down barriers and seizing opportunities to do more to support these and similar efforts than focus energy on the negatives.
Focus on solutions and not excuses.
Fear, uncertainty, unrealistic goals, and a reluctance to accept mistakes can all lead to excuses. In contrast, embracing risk, maintaining confidence, learning from errors, accepting the unknown, and setting clear, achievable goals can vastly improve performance.
Understand, monitor and react to negative feedback.
Lastly, we need to understand, monitor, and react to negative feedback. It’s too easy to ignore, forget, or downplay the negatives in areas like health, performance, climate, and safety. We need to acknowledge these issues and continue to support positive practices. For example, staying home when sick is becoming a more accepted practice than spreading illness at work or at school.
In Anne Duke’s book Quit, she discusses how terms like grit, persistence, confidence are common management recommendations. She says, “Grit can get you to stick to hard things that are no longer worthwhile. The trick is figuring out the difference.”
However, terms like quit, fail, lose, etc. all have negative connotations. For example, when I was a new consultant at SCORE, I expressed my disappointment at the large number of people we were unable to help. The response was, “One of the best things we do at SCORE is to help people keep their day jobs”, as if the mere desire to quit a day job to strike out on one’s own was something to squash.
Measurement is also a critical tool for evaluating success, failure and potential. For example, I’m type 2 diabetic and have blood tests done every three months to adjust my behavior and medications. Managing diabetes involves constant monitoring and modifications of diet, exercise and medication. Recently I had added a drug with weight loss potential and have lost over 15 pounds in four months. The next goal is to test how that affects other factors involved.
In the end, it’s about finding solutions to negative feedback and the data that’s been excavated from it. Constructive criticism offers an opportunity for improvement. On the flipside, when feedback is irrelevant, it’s okay to let it go. What long experience has taught me is that getting defensive or ignoring feedback won’t improve anything. Instead, let’s use it to inspire understanding, explore alternatives, and craft better solutions.
Dr. Bert Shlensky, President of www.startupconnection.net, offers experience, skills, and a team devoted to developing and executing winning strategies. Our strategy includes clear steps, and over 150 free articles and templates to facilitate your efforts and guide your process. We’re here to help you get on track and stay there as you move forward. You might start with our quick video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dhZ3LvSmZfw
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If you are an entrepreneur, someone looking to start their own company, or someone who just wants to be the boss, you are positioning yourself to be a leader, and there is no greater nor more vital role than that. Handling capital, handling personnel, or presenting a product or service to consumers demands the right temperament, the right balance, and the right mindset. It is an awesome responsibility to be a leader, one that can never be taken for granted. But leadership is not measured merely in profits, it is measured in the environment you provide to your employees or co-workers. You need to lead yourself to success by being the best leader you can. It does not mean you have to be Mr. Dithers from the comic strip Blondie, reduced to kicking people in the rear end because they are not performing the way you think they should.That can get laughs in the printed form, but it does not work in the real world.
So what are some of the qualities that constitute an effective leader? Well, here are some we feel are important:
Set the example. Even if a new hire is given a step-by step explanation as to how to function at their job, they will still look to see how it is done by someone who is already there. If, as the leader, you do the right thing, and follow the same procedures you lay down for your constituents, they will naturally follow. Combine that with the energy and commitment needed for the job, and it helps enhance any instructions given to a subordinate. You will not need a flashing sign indicating the way to do it; it will be absorbed from the atmosphere itself.
Mistakes do not have to be fatal. Remember all the mistakes and all the faults you had when you were starting your career. Even if you managed to correct such mistakes and codify how to prevent them from being repeated, no one is ever perfect. While the goal is to get the chance of risk as close to zero percent as possible, it can never be zero percent on its own. Let your employees know that mistakes can happen, and be sure that when they are correct, the knowledge is given to make sure they know what to do next time, and that they can move that knowledge down the line in the future.
Keep the lines of communication open. You never want an employee to think that a question is stupid, and that they should be afraid to ask it. This is part of problem solving. If there appear to be too many questions, there may be a larger problem with training and access to information that needs to be addressed as soon as possible.
Offer encouragement and reassurance. It is impossible to get anywhere in the business world without the power in positivity: in yourself, in the profession you have chosen, in the belief that your efforts will be a success. That positivity must be reflected not only in your activities, but in the activity of your co-workers and employees. Negativity creates paranoia and lethargy; positivity creates success.
You’re in this to be a winner. Nothing demonstrates this better than believing you’re a winner, projecting that you’re a winner, and using that as an attraction to make everyone around you a winner. Our services can help get you going towards that winning standard. Be the best leader you can.
Lawrence Miles is a writer living in White Plains, NY. His collection of essays can be found at https://lawrencemiles.substack.com, and it continues to grow. He is also a published poet, whose works have appeared in journals such as Maintenant #15, 2022 New.
Which line is longer? You may think it’s the middle line because the arrow points jut out. But the truth is, they are all the same size! You might not have figured it out if it was not pointed out to you. We tend to hang on to our initial perception of a situation or a problem, because we believe in deciding things as soon as we can. In some things, such as the belief that grandparents are allowed to spoil their grandkids, you will run into no arguments. But in other things, a little perspective can help immensely.
The economy has several measures of progress and each of us uses the one which support our perceptions of growth or decline A current trend since the pandemic illustrates how critical perceptions can affect our opinions and policies. For instance, income inequality is increasing as evidenced by the fact that 69 percent of the total wealth in the United States was owned by the top 10 percent of earners. In comparison, the lowest 50 percent of earners only owned 2.5 percent of the total wealth. and that many Americans don’t have $400 to pay for an emergency. On the other hand, the collective net worth of the bottom one-fifth went up from $3.3 trillion in 2019 to $4.2 trillion at the end of the second quarter of 2022, indicating they can finance a better lifestyle.
What is critical is that we understand our perceptions and their impact on our decisions, activities, and behavior.
A critical factor is our perceptions of the presenter, the environment and the communication. Licensing agreements, celebrity endorsements and great environments are all designed to make the audience comfortable with presentations, but we seldom acknowledge how they affect our individual behavior. It’s great to have a convention in Honolulu to present your ideas, but if everything about the presentation is solid, it should work just as well in Dubuque, IA or Nome, AK. Environment is important but it should supplement and enhance a convincing presentation, and not be used to make up for incomplete or inadequate data. For instance, a steakhouse can have the right look, but if the meat is not tender and does not deliver the expected flavor, no one is going to dine there after a while; they might find the local diner more appealing because you get what you are looking for in a meal.
Our perceptions frequently exclude key data or are based on highly uncertain information. While they are present in our environment and affect our decisions, we usually avoid consideration of issues like religion, intelligence, politics, wealth, sex, morality, and appearance in our discussions. Part of that is simply out of politeness, but it never hurts to take that into consideration when deciding on a course of action or a strategy to take. In contrast, we may express opinions about issues like climate change, politics, immigration, electric cars and artificial intelligence with insufficient knowledge or analysis. Again, we often let our initial perceptions do the analyzing for us. Patrick Mahomes and Travis Kelce are great football players, but do they really know so much about life insurance that you would automatically go with State Farm? One would hope you would do as much homework on which insurance company to go with as they did as to which insurance company to endorse! After all, they don’t want to waste their time and money either.
One of the most significant aspects of behavior is our perception of information. For example, I believe people don’t take enough risk. How much freedom do you allow innovative people to break rules? When do you provide support versus challenging subordinates and colleagues? While there may be analytical solutions to some of these, our predispositions are frequently more important in determining how we respond. But thinking outside the box, stepping away from perceptions, can lead to greater clarity. Risk does not always mean throwing a dart blindfolded; it simply means going against what you consider the norm, through research and analysis. Remember what Davy Crockett said:
Bias is critical issue in perceptions. Bias is one of the greatest complications when it comes to accuracy in the scientific analysis of decisions. This includes statistical problems like sampling, measurement, and development of information. For example, assessing Covid accurately is problematic due to varying demographics such as age, race, and other factors that convolute the analysis. In many cases, these can be understood, but are still challenging.
I also believe that social bias can be more impactful than statistical bias. This includes our preconceived perceptions and assumptions. I’m always amazed that many programmed employee selection tools outperform interviews especially in jobs requiring specific skills. Such tests remove things like unconscious age, sex, and racial discrimination. At the end of the day, you want the best person to handle the responsibilities you give them, and you want to remove anything that impedes that decision. Again, what seems like a risk has been whittled down to where the risk is minimal.
Cultural and environmental factors also affect bias. Dress, demographics, weather, location, and culture all affect perceptions in the decision-making process. These can also be used to your advantage in talking to colleagues by increasing bonding with similar people. Whenever I meet someone who is also from the Southside of Chicago, agreement on differences becomes much easier.
Style and personality greatly affect perceptions. Race, sex and age are the most common factors. Differentiating personality types like “right brain or left brain” or analytical versus creative greatly affects perceptions. For example, we greatly underestimate the positive or negative impact of using math in many arguments.
We also need to consider the timing of perceptions. In general, the audience, whether on the internet or in person, forms perceptions of a presentation in the first 90 seconds. That does not seem to be much time, but the right focus and the right keywords can get the train going and make for an exciting ride. Now, as an admitted nerd, my presentations can be a little boring. Thus, I try to improve their acceptance rate through tools like editors, comedy, stories, and pictures. I have learned the hard way that my poor spelling has sidetracked some of my best arguments. Thank goodness someone invented spellcheckers!
Let’s start a conversation – no matter what stage you are in with your business. As an exercise, tell us how you have better managed perceptions, or been victim to its bias. Then, tell us what areas you to need focus on in order to see improvement.
Dr. Bert Shlensky earned a PhD from the Sloan School of Management at M.I.T., mentored a few thousand clients at Score and his own practice, grew Sure Fit products from $ 50 million dollars to $150 million in sales including $ 60 million of direct internet sales, was President of WestPoint Pepperell’s Apparel Fabrics Business and headed the $400 million Culet Shirt Group.
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Having loyalty for a brand is one of most important features a business can have. It is passed down from one generation to the next. There is one particular business that has enjoyed such brand loyalty, even when performance has lagged: professional sports.
Professional sports leagues have been in the United States for over 150 years, and many teams can trace their lineage over the past two centuries. It began at a time when they were literally the only game in town: if you wanted to see a baseball game, you went to the stadium or the team closest to you; going to another city was almost impossible. That environment itself created brand loyalty in itself: the “old town team”. Thus, team loyalty could be passed from one generation to the next.
Now, we live in a world where we have access to essentially every team in every sport, so competition is greater than before. Every team’s game can be viewed for almost everywhere in the world. Many teams offer travel packages to see a game in their location live, since travel is easier. Putting up a sign at the local ballpark saying “Game Today” is not enough.
Here of examples of success in the sports world and how they can translate to the business world:
DEVELOPING A SUCCESSFUL BRAND CAN HELP YOU IF GOALS ARE NOT ALWAYS ATTAINABLE. The Dallas Cowboys have not won a Super Bowl in over thirty years, but have built a brand that is among the most well-known, and profitable, business in the world. It was begun by Tex Schramm, the Cowboys general manager, who put the team on high profile days such as Thanksgiving, added cheerleaders that became an attraction all their own, and made Dallas a recognizable destination for exciting football. These traditions have been carried on and expanded by the current owner of the Cowboys, Jerry Jones.
SOMETIMES CONSISTENT SUCESS IS NOT ENOUGH. The New York Yankees recorded their thirtieth consecutive season with a winning record, the longest current streak in American sports. Ask a Yankee fan how this past season went, and they will say it is a failure because they did not make the playoffs. A team like the Yankees, who lead their promotions by bragging about their past successes, can create such high expectations that consistent performance is meaningless. Many times, when a team achieves the ultimate success, an occasional failure is more tolerated. You have to be aware that the demands of your clientele may differ from similar businesses.
SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO TEAR DOWN TO REBUILD. You have to be afraid not to fail in order to succeed, because lessons can be learned from defeat. Many a franchise have allowed themselves to be disassembled and rebuilt from scratch, with the belief that brand recognition and loyalty will carry them through hard times, as long as there is a promise of better days ahead. This is known as a “rebuild”.
MAKE SURE YOUR WORK ENVIRONMENT IS APPEALING TO ENTICE A CASUAL FAN.
Having outstanding facilities can be a draw. The Dallas Cowboys created vastly modern stadiums twice in order to make their product more appealing: Texas Stadium in 1971, and Cowboys Stadium in 2009. The Baltimore Orioles opened Oriole Park at Camden Yards in 1992, known as a “retro stadium”, and almost every other team would follow suit with new stadiums over the next twenty-five years. These buildings create repeat customers by delivering enjoyable visits regardless of the final score.
Combining a good product, through research and development, with providing an enticing environment can result in a successful product, that may just lead to a championship. Reach out to use to help give you that championship edge.
Lawrence Miles is a writer living in White Plains, NY.His collection of essays can be found at https://lawrencemiles.substack.com, and it continues to grow.He is also a published poet, whose works have appeared in journals such as Maintenant #15, 2022 New
There is an excellent Jewish expression called “bubbie-meise”, which refers to old wives’ tales. Some examples are: It’s bad luck to open an umbrella in the house! You can’t go swimming for one hour after you’ve eaten or you’ll drown! Eat all your food, there are starving children in Europe! And my favorite, Chicken soup can cure anything!
One does not have to belong to any religion to believe in such things. We generally tend to accept assumptions, beliefs, or superstitions as valid. Such anecdotes have been passed down for generations. But in the world of business, clinging to faulty data and being too stubborn to accept change cannot be cured buy a bowl of chicken soup, however tasty it may be. We need to test assumptions to ensure better decisions.
Perceptions and inherent patterns cause us to rely on invalid assumptions. People tend to be risk adverse, avoid change, and accept the most comfortable alternatives. However, just as we can develop routines to help us through our day, we can also develop routines to reduce the chance our assumptions are wrong. Risk can never be fully eliminated, but understanding how it can be reduced can help us immensely. It’s why we check the weather forecast before going outside or use the crosswalk to cross the street.
Analytics alone cannot resolve a conflict; it needs to be supplemented with passion, effort, commitment, and focus. Analytics can be less reliable when the data is wrong, when relationships are invalid, when sampling is inappropriate, and when risk is not considered. For example, the more creativity and uncertainty involved in any given situation, the more intuition and a little luck will be required.
Many economic proposals ignore that the economy is getting even more diverse. In 2023 nearly all the stock market gains are in seven stocks. The comparable returns of stocks and bonds seem to gyrate every day. Inflation, bank results, foreign activities and other factors seem to affect the economy every day.
Some suggestions to better test assumptions are as follows:
Review and evaluate processes and decisions. For example, it is unreal to me that objective testing regularly outperforms personal evaluations in employees’ personnel decisions. The reason is mostly poor training and bias.
Data needs to constantly updated. The latest census shows some dramatic changes in the makeup of our country, and that diversity needs to be considered when we gather and analyze data. Different regions have significantly varied ethnic as well as economic characteristics. A great amount of data also needs to be adjusted for the impact of the pandemic. For example, comparisons to last year or 2019 can show quite different results because of social changes brought on by the pandemic; there are more stay-at-home workers than ever before.
Facts are frequently more independent that we think. If you flip a coin a certain number of times, the odds will always work their way back to 50-50 regardless of any streak of heads or tails. Cause and effect are frequently assumed rather than analyzed. Differing and multiple goals (such as short-term and long-term goals) can impact the understanding of cause and effect. Medical symptoms are frequently attributed to certain issues, while other factors may be the real cause. That’s why it’s important to get a second opinion if something does not sound right to us.
Bias is one of the greatest complications when it comes to accuracy in the analysis of decisions. This includes statistical problems like sampling, measurement, and development of information. I also believe that social bias can be more impactful than statistical bias. This includes our preconceived perceptions and assumptions about factors affecting decisions. Cultural and environmental factors also affect bias. Dress, demographics, weather, location, and culture all affect perceptions in the decision-making process. It is important to never assume anything based on the past. I would refer to the Odd Couple episode “My Strife in Court” to illustrate what the word “assume” is made of.
Risk assumptions and tolerance are critical to effective actions. Predicting results where there are significant and consistent historical data can be fairly simple; however, predicting results for new programs or with little or inconsistent data requires developing educated estimates. Assumptions regarding risk tolerance also need to be considered. For example, you generally need to be more cautious with regards to safety than low investment high reward opportunities like the lottery. It’s crucial to know where every dollar is going, and where it can reap the greatest benefits.
Organizations need to be open to measurement and feedback and understand cultural parameters. Observing, understanding, and sharing financials, operations reports, and sales reports are the first step. A management style such as “walking around” and checking in with employees can be priceless. Balancing short-term and long-term goals, understanding challenges, and tolerance for failure are examples of understanding the cultural environment.
Analytics, tradition and experience are all valuable tools to improve decision making. However, you need to ensure that the assumptions behind those tools are accurate and reliable. In particular, our rapidly changing environment involving issues like Covid requires regular testing and validation. Similarly, creativity and intuition that defy some analyses and are becoming increasingly required. We can help you objectively search alternative causes and solutions. Understanding that there are various solutions to the problems we face out there only helps us improve our business practices. It does not mean that chicken soup still does not hit the spot.
Dr. Bert Shlensky, President of www.startupconnection.net, offers experience, skills, and a team devoted to developing and executing winning strategies. Our strategy includes clear steps, and over 150 free articles and templates to facilitate your efforts and guide your process. We’re here to help you get on track and stay there as you move forward. You might start with our quick video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dhZ3LvSmZfw
We welcome comments, suggestions, and questions. You can write us at: bshlensky@startupconnection.net or call at 914-632-6977
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